I am the founder of Human Kindness and for almost a decade I've dedicated myself to studying and working within the field of trauma. I have a Master's Degree in Clinical Social Work and am a Clinically Certified Trauma and Resilience Practitioner.
People who come to Human Kindness, do so because they are ready to acknowledge their childhood or more recent trauma, address any current trauma reactions they may be experiencing, and build better relationships with themselves and their loved ones.
I've carefully picked each therapist on my team because of the kindness, curiosity, and "human-ness" they bring to the table and because I firmly believe in their clinical skills. While each therapist at Human Kindness works from a trauma-focused perspective, each one is unique and have additional specialties they work with.
Why Human Kindness? What does that even mean? Well, when I thought about my style of therapy and my work with clients over the years, what came up for me were three concepts that I frequently integrate into my therapeutic work:
You are human and humans, by nature, are messy and imperfect. We make mistakes and sometimes wish we did things differently. We do our best every day to get by and survive. Somewhere along the way, many of us have learned that our “human-ness” is not okay which truly hurts us more than helps us.
It is okay to be human.
Self-compassion is often something we forget about or avoid when we become focused on healing or change. Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, love, and respect that you would treat anyone you care about. We don’t always realize that our own negative self-talk is what could be holding us back. How can we really heal or change if we are being our own harshest critic?
It is okay to be kind to yourself.
Sometimes, in order to protect ourselves from our “human-ness” and our harsh inner-critic, we may shut down the parts of our brain that allows us to look inward and be curious. We may judge ourselves or our behaviors which doesn't leave much room to think about the “why” behind it all! We need to cut ourselves some slack in order to make enough space to learn what makes us “tick.”
It is okay to be curious about yourself.
I personally give all of my clients a fair warning that they will be reminded of these concepts periodically throughout the course of our treatment and encourage my staff to do the same because I believe we can all use a little dose of authenticity, kindness, and understanding (and hopefully some laughs together) along the way.
All of the therapeutic work we do is done through a trauma lens and is attachment and somatic focused. We utilize an integrative approach in our treatment which may includes a variety of modalities based on your needs and specific concerns. We know that children may not benefit from the same type of therapeutic approaches as adults and therefore integrate play-based and expressive psychotherapies when working with children.
The reason behind pulling from multiple perspectives and not exclusively working within one modality of therapy is because we know that humans are complex and unique - the type of psychotherapy that humans benefit from most is absolutely not “one size fits all.”